Javanese Ceremonies before the wedding

1. Siraman
   
   Siraman, from the origin of the word siram, meaning bath. The day before the wedding, the prospective bride purified by means bathed called Siraman ceremony. Prospective bride bathed his parents house, as well as the groom is also bathed in his parents house.
   Things that need to be prepared to Siraman
   

   - Preparation place to Siraman, whether done in the bathroom or in the back or side yard.

   - List of people who will come to bathe. By tradition besides the bride's parents, grandparents bride, some elders. Are invited to join their bathing is more mature, you should already have grandchildren and had the reputation of a good life.

   - A number of necessary items such as: the water, scoop, chairs, flower setaman, linen, towels, jars etc.

   - Offerings to spray, no more than ten kinds, such as a rooster.

   - The bride's family has sent a bowl of water to the family of the groom. The water is holy water perwitosari means the juice of life, namely water mixed with some kind of interest, which is placed in a container that is good, to be mixed with water to bathe the groom.
2. Ngerik Ceremony
   Ngerik means small hairs on the face of the bride carefully scraped by pemaes.Rambut bride dried and then smoked with hundred / incense. Cosmetic start to apply the prospective bride. Her face makeup and her hair in accordance with the pattern of marriage ceremony predetermined. After completion, the bride dressed in a nice kebaya and batik fabrics prepared sidomukti and Sidoasih motif, symbolizing he will live a prosperous and respected by others. That night, my father and mother be bride gives to her last mouthful, because starting tomorrow, he already is under the responsibility of her husband. The offerings for the same whittling with a splash offerings. So for practical purposes, the entire spray offerings brought in kekamar aisle and into offerings for Ngerik.
3. Midodareni CeremonyIn midodareni ceremony which took place at night before Ijab and Temu Manten / Panggih, on the next day, both parents and their groom groom, escorted by his close family, home visiting parents would be bride. midodareni Be bride after wedding in the makeup room, look beautiful once like widodari, angel, goddess of heaven. In accordance ancient belief, that night the bride was accompanied by some beautiful goddess of heaven. That night he had to stay dikamar and should not sleep from 6 / six pm until midnight malam.Beberapa elderly mother accompany and give valuable advice. Family groom the women, who came midodareni On the night, the bride should look dressed beautiful woman, ready for marriage the next day. According to custom, wedding dikamar no special offerings for midodareni ceremony, there are eleven kinds of food and goods; except that there are 7 / seven kinds of other stuff.
4. Ceremony outside wedding room
   At night midodareni, parents and families prospective bride, received a visit from the parents and family of the prospective groom. They sat in the house, get acquainted and dining together. Prospective groom also come, but he was not allowed in the house and just be sitting next diserambi home. He too only treated to a glass of water, should not eat or drink that lain.Ini purported to exercise patience of a husband and head of the family.
5. Srah-srahan Or PeningsetanIn midodareni ceremony, can be Srah-srahan or peningsetan. (In ancient times, peningsetan done before night midodareni). Parents and family of the prospective groom give some stuff to the parents of the prospective bride. Peningsetan of said thinner, meaning that bind tightly, in this case the commitment to be a marriage between the two parties and the sons and daughters of parents bride will be besan. Giving it be: A set of order ayu as a symbol of sincere hope that salvation. A set of clothes for the bride, including several batik cloth symbolizing the joy of life. Can not miss a stagen, white cloth belt big and long, as a sign of strength tekad.Beberapa crops al rice, sugar, salt, cooking oil, fruits etc. as pralambang adequacy and prosperous life for a new family ..A pair of wedding rings for the bride and groom.On this occasion, the groom handed over a sum of money, as a contribution to the ceremony perkawinan.Ini a mere formality, because urunan money has been given in advance. After dining together and become acquainted, the whole family group of parents temanten man said goodbye to home. They need to prepare for tomorrow is an important marriage ceremony including religious marriage, etc. The traditional ceremony manten meeting. Note: According to the marriage customs of Surakarta, as a farewell party return, the host gives angsul-angsulan, such as fruits, pastries and a set of men's clothing bride to wear tomorrow. In traditional marriage Yogyakarta style, no-angsulan angsul
6. SungkemanA bride and groom do sungkem to both sides of parents. At first the parents of the bride and then the groom's parents. Sungkem is a form of sincere respect for parents and elders.At the time sungkem (saluting the squat position, both hands and kissed knees worshiping in-sungkemi), dagger used groom removed first and restraints by makeup, after completion sungkem, dagger worn.Parents with emotion receive homage in the form of paying respect of her son and at the same time also gives his blessing so that both leads a life in harmony, prosperity. Without saying a word, it is actually the parents of the bride had given her blessing symbolized of batik cloth worn the pattern truntum, meaning Have the considerable fortune during life. Both parents also use a big belt whose name sindhur with pattern image with a curved-line curves, it means parents cautioned her two children so always be cautious, wise in this world to live a real life.